November 6, 2011

• Plato

  

  Or more accurately Platonic and it’s relevence to Love is what i’ve been thinking about recently. Of all the various forms one can write or create a ‘love story’ the platonic version is by far the most moving and touching.

  Thats not to say I dislike the idea of sex being involved in love or a love story, it of course has it’s own merits and can in certain ways deepen the connection between two people.

  But the stories that deal with the love between two people who are in no way connected by family or sex are often so much more distictive and explore a deeply moving almost unattainable love often born out of respect or even duty sometimes. Like the story in ‘True Grit’ where the little girl admires and cares for the old gunslinger as much as he does for her, infact by the end they both ‘love’ each other but not in a way that needs anything sexual or physical.

  A more grey area example would be ‘Leon the Professional’ where there is the slightly more distressing, father daughter kind of relationship with under tones of desire that is never acted upon.

  

  Too often it seems that Love and loving someone is all mixed up with sex and sexual desire but I seems more and more to me that Love is far more complex and layered than that. To love someone is to attempt to reach an otherwise inexpressible desire to share your experiance, your perception and to get a chance to experiance someone elses.

  Of course sex and attraction play a part, but they are not perhaps the sole purpose. The sense that you want to share the same space and time of the person you love is entirely apart from wanting to jump into bed with them.

  The love developed within a family is more akin to deep and accepting trust and thats I suppose whats most alluring about stories about Platonic relationships, the people often despite what may be expected simply love each other for who they are and for how the world looks through their shared experiance, not for anything so potentially fleeting as desire or lust.

  The usual story of the hero and heroine of a story eventually falling for each other and then sleeping together often has no where near the same impact or lasting romance in the mind than the mutual love and trust depicted in sexless stories. It would be nice if that more lasting and heartfelt love was more common in mainstream films and the like as I think it would be a better message.

  Or like in the action film ‘The Island’ where for the first half of the film the characters are acting as if they had no knkowledge of sex but rather are more child like in the way they love, untill eventually they discover the further ‘options’.

  

  Anyway I’m hoping to get somekind of story written on this very subject that i’ve been thinking about for a while, nothing exceptional i’m sure since there likely will be only one concept that i’m exploring, but just thought i’d see if I could explain my thinking before I did the story version

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  What are your thoughts on Love, Sex and the interaction of the two? 

  And what Love stories that didn’t involve sex did you find the most moving/memorable?

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