October 17, 2011
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That Cool Person.
Having spent the past day staying with a friend and his 6 or 7 yr old daughter, i’ve been thinking about those cool childhood people you always remember.
The friends of your parents who show up and are so facinating, often they are rarely about or just fade away as lives and time move on, but the memories can last a life time for the kid.
With your own kids you’ve got a life time of ever changing moments and events, so while every action is important, you’ve got some leeway.
But as the ‘cool’ friend or cousin or something, where your contact might be rare or unlikely to last it suddenly hit me the concept that what you do today could be written into someones memory for the rest of their lives.When you look back at your own memory and think about all the people and moments, it suddenly makes you aware that especially with young children, your actions and choices can reach into the future carried by the minds of those around you.
I suppose its similar thoughts to this that make me so excited to have my own children someday. With a child of your own you’re taking on the responsibility of guiding the best version of that person for as long as you can, and every thing you say, teach and do will be written in to their choices and minds, it really is the ultimate act of creation.
So has anyone got an interesting story of that cool someone from their childhood?
Or even a story of being the cool person for a kid you know?
Comments (23)
not a cool-person story, but I remember watching Tv with my grandma. I was maybe 4, 5…not in school yet. We watched some sort of soap, and there was this old woman who was always very grumpy and she said: ” always expect the worst, then you can only get a pleasant surprise”. She was not a popular character, but the logic of that sentence burnt itself into may mind for the rest of my life. I was always ginst the think positive movement.
I was very young and walking down the sidewalk and i saw a dog and started to pet it. A young women passing by showed me that i did not pet the dog the right way. That i was hurting it’s ears. An she showed me how to pet the dog in a nice way. I remember that she was so kind and beautiful. It stayed with me since then.
“it suddenly makes you aware that especially with young children, your actions and choices can reach into the future”
So true, Bede. You’re going to be quite the father one day.
I was blessed to have a few individuals I saw as the ‘cool’ people, esp w/ regards to my older bro. We had our fights, but he was always my motivator & mentor.
Hope you’re doing well!
I always thought my Uncle was cool… he was kind of the black sheep of the family, apparently I’ve followed in his footsteps. We get along great now!!!
The rest of the family is stuck in a “Leave it to Beaver” episode from the 1950s… or whenever that show was on. Probably not a helpful story, but, it’s the only one I could really think of, not being much of a people person myself.
there was this one person who was a friend of my parents who i thought was so cool because i learned how to meditate from them. they showed me the proper way to sit as it took me forever to place my legs in the right position, haha. i will never forget it.
and then there was that one set of parents who criticized me for not eating enough dumplings new year’s eve, not nearly as enough as their son did apparently. i will never forget them either.
@under_the_carpet - Thats exactly the sort of thing
those strange key moments that stick with us….but you should try the think posetive route once in a while, wait till you’re your grandmas age before totally giving up on plesant surprises 
@locomotiv - :) how lovely! it’s funny that moments like that stick with us when years of being taught by teachers or parents can fade away.
I wonder who the lady was.
@lenafaye - :D you must know about this more than anyone Lena.
it’s always nice to see you back on Xanga, hope your okay 
Yea siblings are great for this sort of thing, i’ve learnt so much from my big bro.
I’m good thanks
@BlindSight22 - No that was just right
I’d rather avoid folks myself, and it’s nice those connections with certian family members we make, gald to hear you still keep in touch.
@wyrdkismet - Oh wow thats a good one!
such a useful skill to pass on.
And you can get told off for not eating dumplings??? thats really harsh.
I have 2 lil nieces I adore…well testerday I was playing with the yourgest one she’s 6 and while tickeling her she bumped her head and cried
…made me feel awful and well pretty much terrified of being a bad mother when I have my own kids… cuz weird as I am, thats something I really want to do… but contact with kids it’s always such a sweet envigorating and teaching thing… I don’t know about me making and impact in kid’s memory but kids definetly make a huge impact on my life.
@BFB1131 - I don’t give up…I think the best philosophy to live with is: “ hope for the best, but expect the worst”
Hmm, I don’t remember much of my childhood. And from what I remember, I didn’t really interact with much people. I remember spending most of it alone, studying, playing with my dolls alone… Yeah.
I remember 2 people from my childhood I looked up to. Although we lost contact, I never will forget them and the impact they made on my life.
When I read the title, I thought you were gonna talk about yourself
@CorvyusMorte - I’m sure you’d be a wonderful mother
you could write your own nursery rhymes 
It’s always worrying when you’re dealing with other peoples kids, but with your own I imagine the unique connection you’d have would make it easier in a way.
@under_the_carpet - Yes thats very wise
Though i’d re-word it as ‘Hope for and expect the best, while being able to handle the worst’
@Rainboxx - Hmm It’s good to have had time alone, gives you chance to understand your self before you set out trying to discover other people.
It can however be lonely, and that just sucks :/
@jennylovve - Haha you’re nice
but I’m certainly not the cool type 
And yea theres a few people I must have only met once or twice that i still fondly remember.
@BFB1131 - mhh that’s probabaly perfect
I childhood sucks! I was just unwanted and abandoned someone’s daughter to my step relatives.
@RestlessButterfly - Anyone who chose to abandon you was a damn fool, you’re a special person Rez
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@RestlessButterfly - You’ve already done loads for me
You don’t have to give me anything more, plus I got loads of credits from you too 
While i’m certianly not going to stop you if you insist
You are just so nice! I’m glad I know you.
@BFB1131 - I collected more than enough CREDITS, I think I should share them. Don’t worry, it’s a gift – no terms and conditions. I gifted someone a One Year Premium few hours ago, so you’re not the only one. I’ll give it to you, but not now – maybe next week. I wanna collect a lot of CREDITS first, then only I’ll give ‘em to my favorite bloggers.
@RestlessButterfly - Maybe after you, I’ll give premium to CorvyusMorte, I enjoy reading her poems.
@RestlessButterfly - I certianly agree with CorvyusMorte getting gifts, I love her poems.
And terms or not I honestly mean it you need help with ANYTHING and i’ll be more than happy to help.
And you’re getting a super hero drawing too!
@BFB1131 - Don’t tell her yet. Let it be her surprise. Me a superhero… LOL! I never think of myself as a superhero. Thank you. You’re awesome.
@BFB1131 - Haha! Too late I guess. I rec’ my comment. It’s okay.
@RestlessButterfly - Oh sorry :S I Rec’d it too quick.
@BFB1131 - It’s okay
. Small matter 
. You’re more important to me and to Xanga community 
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